The healing after narcissistic abuse is long, and I would not wish it on a single soul. I'd never approach a new supply. The message stands.

Guilt, shame, blame, deflection, play victim is like currency to them, a deadly game. The only way to win is not to play, walk away to live.

I learned that no matter how many promises they make or self-deprecating words they use, the narcissist has one setting: cruelty and abuse.